Great Aunt Donna was a terror. No. She was a dread. A terror is something you can picture, something that makes you dizzy in a wave and lasts longer than it exists. A dread weighs on you without shape. Dread, you can drown yourself in. In an inch of it.
I had already had a drink when I picked her up from the airport. I was steeling myself with juniper berries and quinine.
She grabbed me from the side. I think she thought it was a hug. Here, she’s a presence defined by silence, and punctuated by sips of decaf, and the old days on her dad’s almond orchard. She suffered so much. My father was a bastard, never forget that. He may seem like he’s grown but she knows his nature. She will ship me that potato ricer she doesn’t use anymore. She’d love to see that concert but her hearing is going. She has osteoporosis, rheumatoid arthritis, whooping cough, lupus, and the flu. But she feels just fine. She had Lyme disease last summer, didn’t she tell you? She thinks it’ll rain. I think I’ll have another glass of wine.
Great Aunt Donna brought a pale hand with a soft pink tissue to her pale face surrounded by hair I could only describe as pale, notwithstanding regard to symmetry, at least 500 times in four days. She blew her nose and almost seemed translucent. If I looked at the tiny expanse of her, I thought, I might lose my mind.
I told the time by what we were drinking, gestating a hangover without ever getting so much as a buzz. Great Aunt Donna, sipping cup after cup of coffee with cream before noon. Me adding bad whiskey to mine in the kitchen, lingering there to stare at the clock and will it forward. Her muted coughs coming from the next room. Each a-hem, a-hem weighing me down with mild hatred. Each sip a stinging reminder of how hard doing nothing really is.
Then it’s noon, and now it’s decaf. I escape to the corner store — each cold drop of rain is precious, something that’s finally not soft and warm and pink and boring — for tissues and chapstick and a 24-pack of something cheap and domestic and drank three in an hour.
At late afternoon, a light dinner at an Italian restaurant with seashell-and-chain-hotel-lobby decor. A waiter with a fake accent and a sickly mustache brings a bottle of wine and I drink it in delicate gulps. Meats generously sauced, vegetables boiled back to canned, three forks each, more coffee, and “should we order dessert? I couldn’t possibly. Oh, what the heck. I can’t watch my weight every day.” I considered Irish coffee.
Every sound of the fork scraping the plate of tiramisu sends a shiver that wraps itself around my heart, beating slower and slower and so slowly that I stop paying attention to the conversation so I can help it do its work. Directing the air into my lungs. Trying to meditate on my body, still young, nothing truly a labor. Letting the feeling of panic suffusing my limbs remind me that I am alive. I am young and I am alive and this is a four-day trip and it is now day three.
The sun-bleached seashell drapes and the chairs on casters and the waiter’s full name on his gold plastic name tag start to obsess me. Giorgio Napolitano. That isn’t his real name. Great Aunt Donna is ordering more coffee and a cab. My head is pounding and more wine seems like the best and only option. I am drinking it too quickly.
The thought of the things she’s been talking about, the things she brought as Christmas gifts and said she wouldn’t be offended if I sold at a garage sale, the things that only do one thing, things that came recommended so highly, things you keep for house guests only and are dismayed when they use, things that you store in the basement and never see again, the children you must have soon who will require more things and more things and will themselves be things, the friends who will trade things with you and require the purchasing of more things for their proper entertainment, a gravy boat and real silver and aprons with Kiss the Cook or If You Knew My In-Laws You’d Understand, the thought of them coming up the stairs after you, gift-wrap ribbons and electrical plugs trailing behind, the thought of them gradually assembling into an extra-wide coffin, the thought of growing paler and quieter and then lying down for an afternoon nap and never, ever waking up, the thought of each of them adding up to the road-trip you never took, will never take, the studying abroad you never did and now and forever will be unseemly at your age, the thought of why did you move here, why do you live in a place you thought was so different from the false-fronted Main Street and Great Aunt Donnas of your hometown, if you’re only going to end up the same and alone and buried in things and old.
Great Aunt Donna wasn’t a terror. She reminded you of the terror, not of death, but of the slowness and distraction of the years where you have nothing left but waiting. To sip decaf coffee and just not understand rap music. To order something easy to digest and gasp at violence in a mattress commercial. To lay in a coffin, eyes wide open, surrounded by symbols piled so deep no elegies can reach you.
Great Aunt Donna’s things were sucking her dry and pale and lifeless. For me, it was only temporary. I was just drunk.